Remembering ‘The Bob Garratt’ – Blog 63


The UK memorial for Dad will be held on Friday March 17th at The Parish Church of Saint Peter, Main Street, Awsworth, Nottingham, NG16 2QU. The service will commence at 15:00.

Afterwards there will be a gathering at The Crown Inn where we will have the opportunity to celebrate and remember his life and what he meant to us all. The Crown Inn, is just 100m away from the Parish Church.

My Dad was a much loved man and this was evident following his Cremation here in Spain on March 1st. A number of friends and family attended the service and the day was a fitting tribute and send off for one of life’s true gems.

This will now be the final blog I write on behalf of Dad. It started as an opportunity to not only keep friends and family informed about Dad’s progress but also to add to the information available out there for families who find themselves in similar situations.

What I hadn’t accounted for, was the level of support it would give us back. The love, loyalty, understanding and compassion that friends, family and total strangers have shown us has been overwhelming. All of which has helped us walk down the unknown path together.

In a world that is so often consumed with war and hatred, I have been honoured and blessed to be part of a story that has contained strength, courage, love and resilience. Cancer took my Dad’s life, but his spirit will live on forever more.

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank just a few of the people that have been there for my Dad. There are dozens more though these particular people have helped more than I can perhaps every truly convey:

Jim & Val Jordan: My Dad had nothing but love and respect for you both. He loved you both dearly. He would have been proud of the service you gave him on March 1st. I know I am. Despite it being brought forward 50 years.

Tom Rigg: There are not enough words I can find to express the sheer gratitude for the support and love you have provided my Dad and family. Without you, this situation would have been unbearable. Eres una Estrella. Gracias.

Gloria Brook: You have done more than you may very well know. Your compassion and understanding has helped us navigate the unknown in a more clear, positive and grounded manner. Thank you.

For those that attend next Friday, I look forward to seeing you.

Thank you & God bless you all xxxx


Two cannibals eating a clown, one turned to the other and said: “Does this taste funny to you?”

I have a gravel path in my garden while my neighbour’s is concrete. I think mine wins on aggregate.

Two snowmen in a field – one says to the other “Can you smell carrots?





Final Goodbye – Blog 62

Dad in his prime...
His favourite photo & how he wants us to remember him

Thank you everyone for all your continued love, support and kind words.

Whilst this is not the blog I ever wanted to have to write, the day has finally come. My Dad passed away this morning at 7:25am Spanish time.

He was not alone and died peacefully when the time came. He is no longer in pain and no longer suffering. He battled courageously for 21 months and despite the initial prognosis giving him just 6 months to live, we were blessed to have been given so much more time, thanks largely to just how strong and resilient he was.

We have so many happy memories and it’s those I want you all to remember and celebrate. With this in mind, it is our intention for Dad to be cremated at a service held in the Tanatorio at Xativa. This will be held on March 1st at 12pm. For those that can attend then we look forward to welcoming you in celebrating Dad’s life. For those that are understandably unable to make the trip over we are planning to have a secondary memorial to be held in England.

I do not have a confirmed date for the English side of things at present. It is our intention to hold it at the Church in Awsworth (TBC) with a gathering at a local venue shortly after. As and when these details are known I will look to share accordingly.

By no means do we feel defeated by today’s events. Whilst Cancer may have claimed Dad’s life, his spirit will live on in all of us. The strength he showed in his darkest days will stay with me forever. My Dad was a proud, happy, loving man and always will be. His jokes were questionable at the best of times but we will always love him for them.

Sleep well Dad, we love you so much and always will xxx

Facing the Final Days – Blog 61


Whilst the news is not entirely unexpected, I must admit today (Tuesday) has been heart breaking. Up until now we have been watching my Dad fight his battle with Cancer. We are now watching him die.

Pain is just a regular occurrence now, though thankfully the Palliative Team were due to visit Dad and offer their assistance. However, it was clear within seconds that the news was not good. We are now facing just days. It’s highly likely, if not a certainty, that my Dad will be gone before the week is out, if not sooner. We have been advised to prepare ourselves and make any necessary arrangements.

All current painkillers have ceased with immediate effect. Instead they have been replaced with Morphine injections to help Dad remain as pain free as possible until he passes. The ceasing of all tablets also included the sodium pills which have been keeping him out of hospital. Basically, the sodium levels will fall, but Dad will be gone before this becomes an issue.

No amount of awareness or kind words can truly ever prepare you for the inevitable. My Dad is one of life’s good guys. A wonderful husband, dad, grandfather, brother, uncle, friend and a beautifully upbeat person.

I can’t really express in words how gutted we feel that Dad will soon be gone. Clearly, I am thankful for the time we have been given and in many ways we have been extremely lucky with the huge amount of time we have been blessed with, in order to create memories.

No matter how gutted we feel, the silver lining is that the Morphine is intended to make the next few days as easy as possible for Dad. In addition, he is at home, in his castle, with his loved ones around him. He is however a shadow of his former self and simply no longer has the energy left to fight. In some respects, I can’t fault him. He has fought proudly with his head held high for far longer than we could ever have hoped for. My Dad an amazing man.

These next few days will be tough, horribly tough. Ultimately though we are proud of him and love him very much.

Bowel Cancer Chemo – Blog 60

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Part one of the new Chemo cycle targeting the Bowel Cancer has started with a 3 hour session in Xativa Hospital. Dad was put on an intravenous solution to kick start this new phase. It also gave him chance to reconnect with the countless number of nurses/girlfriends he has gained during his time attending all his various appointments.

He has also now been prescribed part 2 of the Chemo treatment which is Capecitabina – a tablet to be taken orally, twice a day, for the next 14 days.

As expected the standard list of side effects that could occur during this round of Chemo is quite lengthy:

Stomach pain or upset stomach, Constipation, Loss of appetite, Changes in the ability to perceive the flavours of food, Increased thirst, Unusual tiredness or weakness, Dizziness, Headache, Hair loss, Rash, Back, joint or muscle pain, Redness, swelling, itching or tearing of the eyes, Difficulty sleeping or staying asleep.

The Serious side effects that we need to keep an eye out for though are as follows:

Diarrhoea, Sickness, Vomiting, Sores in the mouth, Swelling, pain, redness, or scaling of the skin on the palms of the hands or soles of the feet, Fever, chills, sore throat or other signs of infection, Swelling of the hands, feet, ankles, or lower legs, Pain or tightness in the chest, Fast heartbeat, Dark urine, Yellowing of the skin or eyes.

The Oncologist is going to see Dad on a weekly basis to ensure that he is coping okay with this cycle of Chemo. She is highly concerned of the side effects that could occur for Dad and wants to ensure that the treatment is the right choice at this late stage. She did give the option to postpone it this morning as Dad was feeling a little worse for wear and very tired.

It is touch and go if this cycle of Chemo will do anything other than upset the balances of Dad’s other organs which have currently stabilised. The Capecitabina tablets can cause complications for patients that have current issues with their liver, kidneys and heart. The fact that Dad has liver metastases, fluid round his heart and had kidney failure over Christmas are all areas of concern that the hospital must keep a close eye on. Salt levels are also going to be at risk if diarrhoea occurs due to the fact this will flush out liquid intake which in turn will flush out all the sodium causing even more complications for the kidneys.

The counter argument of this is that he is barely now eating anything anyway. So, in some respects this is helping as the less he takes in the less he needs to process through his body. To better understand what he was up against we have asked if surgery was possible in order to remove the tumour in his bowel. This would have meant Dad having a Colostomy Bag, which is something he doesn’t really like the thought of but we wanted to know anyway.

Unfortunately, surgery to remove the tumour is not possible. The tumour is big and is inoperable. It is also the reason he cannot toilet properly. It’s not just that he isn’t eating, the tumour is so big that the colon is almost fully blocked. As a result, should he start being sick and not toileting at all, then he will end up having a Colostomy Bag whether he likes it or not, despite the fact the tumour will remain in his Colon.

Both Dad & Mum are understandably concerned with regards to the lack of eating and the Oncologist has said that it is not a problem. Her words were basically that whilst not eating will cause him to die, he will die anyway. This was done in a pleasant and tactful way though the answer is only what we already knew.

This coming Wednesday we will see the Oncologist for a follow up review; Dad will have his blood tests done and this will give them the chance to decide whether the treatment should continue or not.

On Thursday, Dad will then have a biopsy done on his liver. This will be a full day appointment with careful monitoring needed throughout the day. He will be put on an intravenous drip in order to administer medication if required and will be on bed rest, after the biopsy, within the oncology department for between 2-6 hours.

Should Chemo work and not impact Dad’s quality of life too drastically then the cycle is repeated every 3 weeks. (The next one being 10th March).

Should Dad not be strong enough then his options are limited. It’s highly likely a Colostomy Bag will be fitted and he will then be in the realm of the palliative care team to ensure he is as pain free as possible until the end.

Despite Dad being shattered, feeling ‘wuzzy’ and a little worse for wear, we did still head out today for a walk around a nearby lake. Dad wanted to and so this should be taken as an encouraging sign. I have to admit, he doesn’t look half bad either. Well, not half bad in this picture.